Ask Him to make it perfectly clear whether to continue seeing the guy or not. When things did/do get off balance, I find that Ethan and I fight more, which makes sense, since I am expecting him to fill parts of my heart that he can’t. I actually hadn’t spent much time single UNTIL I decided to follow Jesus. For me, this is something that I constantly have to keep in check.
Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.
Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.
I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.
It’s so much trial and error, but there is so much to be learned in that time looking for Mr. My good friend enlightened me to this fact when she put it into words one night. You don’t want to be lusted after, you want to be sought after. If he doesn’t, he’s a boy, not a man, and he’s not ready to treat you like a lady. A man likes to provide for his woman, it is not a weakness to let him, or to let him feel needed and appreciated, or that his hard work is paying off because he can treat his lady to a nice meal. No “project boyfriends.” I recently realized that every guy I dated until my husband, I wanted to (and thought I could) change. You cannot change who a person is and you cannot change a boy into a man. My example for this would be boyfriend #4, my daughter’s father. Our bodies are a gift from our Creator, and they should be kept until a man has sworn himself in marriage to us before God and all of our family and friends.
So fun, so nerve-wracking, at times so confusing, at times so disappointing, at times so filled with hope and promise… Give EVERY relationship to God from the beginning – even before you meet up on date #1. This is a common struggle, don’t be ashamed of it, be aware of it and work to counter-act it with your man and with God! Give yourself time to get to know yourself in Christ first, then worry about finding Mr. I feared being alone because I wasn’t sure who I was without a boyfriend. That time to transform, grow in your faith, and (in my case) re-grow your spine to be firm in your expectations and morals is so crucial to finding the man God’s designed for you.